If you have lupus you can feel drained all the time and can cause your sexdrive to decline, as well as some of the medications that you take. They can also make it difficult for you to achieve orgasm.
You can get sores in your mouth and genital areas making sex very painful, as well as vaginal dryness. Having lupus by no means that you have to stop having sex. Here are some tips on having a better sex life with lupus.
What Is Causing Your Problem?
If you don’t admit you have a problem, you will never be able to solve it. Then the next step would be to find out what is causing your problem and work on a way to solve it.
Just as an example some meds can cause lupus patients to have vaginal dryness and lowered libido. You may be able to change your medication or use lubricants if you can’t change your meds. Many people won’t talk to their
doctor about their issue because they feel embarrassed. However, your doctor should be able to help you with any issue that you may be having.
Setting The Right Ambience
Being well rested and relaxed before sex can help setting the mood. It will make for a better experience for both parties involved.
Take a warm bath or shower,light candles and play some soft music. You can take a shower by yourself or with your loved one.
The hot shower well help with the inflammation associated with lupus. The music and candles should help to relax you some.
Lower the lights and turn up the heat. Why not start with a gentle message.
Do what works best for you. Every couple is different so experiment. Find out what works best for you and your partner. You could do things that play on your senses.
Using a blindfold and have your partner try different foods. You could also touch them while they are blindfolded. If intercourse is too painful then you should focus on foreplay.
Sounds simple enough but make sure you make time to have sex. These days our schedules are tight, especially if you have children already.
Make sure you have enough time so you both can enjoy yourselves. Fatigue can be really awful for people with lupus. You may want to consider taking a nap before you have sex.
Talk About Sex
You should always talk to your partner about sex. If you need to you can look for ways to. Just talking about sex can make your intimacy stronger. Talk about what things that you do like, as well as things that you don’t like.
It is important to see how your partner is feeling.
Patience Is A Virtue
Learn to be patient when you body isn’t acting the way that you want it to. You may want to take things slower and look for other ways to be intimate.
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